clothing exchange

On Monday night I went to a clothes swap run by The Clothing Exchange – my first one!

The idea of it was to bring up to six pieces of clothing, which you exchanged one-for-one with buttons upon entering (subject to the garment being in good enough condition and such). After all the clothes were hung up, we could go and pick up three items to try on. If we wanted them we took them off the hangers and could try on another three. And then we “paid” for the items we wanted with the buttons.

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It was a pretty small event, which meant less to choose from and the nice things being snapped up in about a minute. And I don’t know if it was just because I was slow at choosing, but the half of stuff that was left after that intial minute wasn’t so great in terms of quality. I’m hoping they’ll start being a bit stricter about that, or that it was just an off night for them.

the goods

That said, I picked up some things that I adore, and I’m assuming the things I gave up went to loving homes. (They were some of the nicest things from when I removed most of my ‘not-me’ colours from my closet.)

Here’s what I got.

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Scarf with pockets. I was close to buying a new scarf (organic from Etsy or something) because I hadn’t any luck finding one at an op shop the past few months. The ones I have usually clash with the new colours I’m wearing. But this is perfect.

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Strange silk dress which I got because I liked the print (but the dress looks awful on me). I’ll turn it into a camisole or another kind of top.

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I adore the style of this skirt and the rich colour of it so much.

I had six buttons to “spend” but nothing else felt right, so I just stuck with these three items.

thoughts

I think if I had’ve attended this event last year I would have felt a little jibbed. Like I’d lost money giving up six really nice items when I’d only come away with three. How much money I could have made on them if I sold them on eBay instead. Annoyed that some of the other guests didn’t put in better pieces for the benefit of everyone else.

But instead I’m inclined now to think that I got a perfect deal. I have two items that I love and one item that I might love soon, and they’re worth more to me than the six pieces I didn’t even want, no matter how much they cost in the first place.

I’m not equating value with money anymore. I’m not equating it with how many of something there is.

Value is feeling.

  • It feels good to know that my items have a new life with people who will appreciate them. There’s not really that feeling when I donate to an op shop, because I don’t know quite as much about where they’ll end up.
  • It feels good to have decluttered an extra six unwanted things from my home.
  • It feels good to have these new-to-me things that truly express my personal style.
  • It was a really lovely night with a very good friend.

The other stuff doesn’t really matter anymore.

one last word

I found myself wanting stuff again after attending the event. You might know that I’ve barely bought anything aside from food, necessities and experiences in the past month or so (and been quite content doing without my usual thrifted wares), so this shook my foundations a little.

I thought about new shoes all the way home.

I wasn’t expecting that, though I can see why it happened. The event reminded me of the joys you get from new things, that sense of ‘I don’t have enough’. But I’m just going to wait, and the desire and urgency will pass. If the new shoes idea sticks around for a few months, I’ll look into it then.

I’ll go again sometime next year, I think.

Have you been to a clothing swap? How did you find it?

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a first sewing lesson

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I usually don’t sew with Ellie around (because I didn’t want to get her interested in playing with pins and pushing buttons and things) but last night I was feeling so blah and just needed a sewing fix.

Of course, Ellie came and wanted to join in, and I realised that she’s old enough now to start learning this stuff without hurting herself.

So I ended up giving her her first sewing lesson. (She became very very interested in the reverse stitch button… which is funny because when she’s playing Mario Kart she always wants to drive backwards, too.)

My blah feeling went away with her enthusiasm and my intention to teach her, and I realised that sharing my need-to-retreat time with her is actually really good for both of us.

Obviously I need some alone time as well, but separating my relaxation time and looking-after-her time so completely just leaves me more drained than I need to be. I have been feeling it.

I remember reading a piece in a Thich Nhat Hanh book about a father who felt like he had no free time, because he divided it all among his wife, his kids and his work. His solution was to think of his family time as his personal free time – because then the time for himself was abundant.

When I read it I thought, ‘Wouldn’t that be nice?’ and ‘If only I could think that way.’

But I think the idea was just waiting in my head until an opening came up, like last night, when I could begin to embrace it.

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a system for tracking your wardrobe

In renovating my wardrobe, I need to keep track of:

  • what I already have
  • what I need
  • what I’m not so happy with keeping, but have to, because I don’t have a replacement yet
  • the clothes I have waiting for reconstruction
  • what I want to make

It’s a lot to keep in my head. So I figured out a system, where I can see at a glance what I need to work on or look out for. I can take it op-shopping with me, or refer to it when I want to do some sewing, to keep focused.

Thinker Maker’s Wardrobe Tracker System

First, I decluttered my wardrobe. I kept little-loved things in there if I really needed them – we’ll deal with them later.

Down the left edge of a page I listed the garment types I need. Dress pants, tracksuit pants, long-sleeved tops, handbags, shoes – that sort of thing. I had a good think about how I spend my time. (For example, I don’t need dress pants or business shirts at all. I just don’t need them, and wouldn’t wear them if I had ‘em.)

I didn’t do this, but it’s a good idea to write beside each thing, the number of them you need. Work out how many you need based on how much time you spend wearing that type of clothing. For example, if you spend half you time working and half your time in casual dress, you’ll need 50% of your wardrobe to be work attire and 50% casual attire.

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Next, I wrote down each item still in my wardrobe beside the corresponding garment type. I kept the descriptions to one or two words, just enough so I’d know what item I’m referring to. I circle each of these things so that I know circled means I own it.

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I draw a little filled-in circle on those items I don’t love and would like to replace.

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I write in the clothes I have that are ready for reconstruction, but don’t circle them, because I don’t “have” them yet.

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If I know I need a particular garment type but don’t know what it’s going to be yet, I write in numbers to signify the number of pieces I need.

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Once I get/make the garment, I’ll circle the number.

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So, looking at my page here:

  • I can see that the uncircled items are “unfinished”. I need to get or make these items.
  • For me, the uncircled numbers are really open-ended as to what style I can make or buy. I look at those when I’m feeling creative.
  • When I have enough of a garment type to get by, then I can work on replacing the filled-circle items – those unloved ones I kept because I didn’t have anything else to wear.

I think this system needs to be done again every so often. Sometimes what we thought we needed isn’t needed any more, and when things get bought or made they can be entered in more specifically.

I want to revise mine to lessen the number of items needed. (Weirdly enough, since we cut down to only having one laundry basket in the house, I do the washing more often and don’t need so many clothes.)

Redoing it regularly might seem like a pain, but I think it’s good in that writing this down makes us consider what we’re doing with our wardrobes so that we can be more mindful about it.

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operation improve my wardrobe

A couple of months ago I decided to renovate my wardrobe.

I discovered my colours, I explored my personal style (rather than the style of this ideal girl that was supposed to be me), and I resolved to banish unloved things from my wardrobe, stat. Make everything I needed from thrifted materials or buy them second-hand.

Well, it didn’t exactly work out like that.

Even though I did a mass purge, I still have things in my closet I don’t love. I’m not entirely enamoured with a few of the things I made for myself since then, or bought handmade. I’m still missing items that I planned to make for myself – and am tempted to just go out and buy them because I have enough on my plate.

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Motivation

I forget that working out my style and making things for myself is actually immensely satisfying.

Every time I walk over to my closet, I’m excited for just this tiny moment about the possibilities, and then one of my internal monsters jumps in and says it’s too hard, I’ve got more important things to do, or I just want to “relax” (which often just means zoning out from my problems in front of the computer or TV. Whether that’s actually relaxing is another story).

What if I just let myself be motivated? What if the voice I listened to was the inspiring one, the one that makes me think that I could create something great – that’s mine – and be proud of it?

Patience

I think in general, rushing isn’t great. It causes stress, it makes us settle, it makes it difficult for us to be mindful.

It took me a lifetime of mixing and matching and chopping and changing to get the not-awesome wardrobe that I had. Getting closer to the awesome one is going to take a while, too.

Tracking progress

Like any other project, improving a wardrobe goes better if you figure out what the hell you’re trying to do and look at how to achieve it.

I created a little system for tracking the items I’ve got in my wardrobe, the items I need, the items I’m going to make, and the items I have waiting for reconstruction. I’ll share how it works in a post tomorrow.

Is your wardrobe heavily “under construction”, or just evolving every now and again? Do you manage it like a project or just do things as they come up?

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on scoutie girl

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I wrote a guest post for Scoutie Girl that’s up today, called The “Meh” Trap – or – Personal Style and Mindful Spending.

It’s about how knowing your personal style is a big help in being a mindful consumer (for us creative folk, at least). And some suggestions for how to get a bit more in tune with yours.

If you came over here via Scoutie Girl, hello and welcome! The ‘new here?‘ link above will get you started with knowing what this blog is all about. And you can subscribe via email or RSS.

If you’re not a Scoutie Girl reader, there are some great posts over there that I think you guys would like on the topic of mindful spending. (I particularly like disposable culture & our fear of committment.)

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